My story
I spent many years in an abusive marriage.
By the time I left, my mind was full of thoughts like:
“I’m not good enough.”
“I mess everything up.”
“Something is wrong with me.”
Those thoughts weren’t true, but my brain believed them.
And because my brain believed them, they shaped how I felt. And how I felt shaped what I believed I deserved.
To the people around me, I appeared confident. I excelled at my job. I worked hard to rebuild my life.
From the outside, everything looked fine. Even strong.
But on the inside, I felt broken. Uncertain. Unmotivated. Trapped in thoughts I had come to accept as facts.
Then one day, I came across a podcast where a guest speaker described the limitations we place on ourselves—and the ones others place on us—as nets that keep us from flying as high as we were meant to fly.
And something in me stopped.
My life was covered in nets.
Nets made of words.
Nets made of thoughts.
Nets made of beliefs that were never actually true.
The shift
That moment stayed with me.
Not because everything suddenly changed, but because I could finally see something I had never fully seen before.
Those nets weren’t my identity. They weren’t truth.
They were patterns of thought I had learned over time.
And once I could see them, I started to question them.
Not all at once. Not perfectly.
But slowly, I began to notice the difference between what was happening… and what my mind was saying about what was happening.
Over time, I began developing simple ways to “untangle” those thoughts—tools that helped me pause, slow things down, and separate fear from fact.
What I found was this: when thoughts are untangled, life doesn’t necessarily become easier, but it becomes clearer.
What I do now
This is the work I now share through coaching, teaching, and the Untangle Tool.
I help people notice the thoughts that are shaping how they see themselves and their lives—and gently begin loosening their grip.
Not by forcing positivity.
Not by ignoring what’s hard.
But by creating enough space to see things differently.
Who I work with
I work with women who feel overwhelmed by their own thinking.
Women who are capable, thoughtful, and strong—but quietly carrying thoughts like:
“I’m stuck.”
“I should be further along.”
“Something in me isn’t working right.”
And who are ready for a different way of relating to their thoughts.
A different way forward
If that resonates with you, you’re not alone in it—and you don’t have to untangle everything at once.
You can begin with one thought, one moment, one small shift at a time.
